Sunday, May 9, 2010

Helping Hand:

Royal,

I am on the younger end of your readership. I am 17, here is my the problem I have right now. I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and until recently he has been respectful of me not wanting to go all the way. Now he is putting pressure on me to have sex with him, and I'm still not ready to lose my virginity. I know I must sound immature but I have always been taught to wait for sex. What Should I do? ~The Last Virgin

Virgin,

There's a saying that is applicable here, "You're body, you're choice." If you are not ready to have sex, if you are not ready for the emotional repercussions that having sex comes with then don't do it. Nobody is worth losing that part of yourself, especially some punk putting pressure on you. If your boyfriend cares anything about you then he will back off the subject after you say no, if he doesn't you need to cut him free and find someone who will respect you and your choice. 


Royal,

I'm not going to beat around the bush. I recently buried my partner and am very lonely. I have tried going to the bars to get picked up or pick someone up and always come up shortchanged. I really need someone to just cuddle with, I get very lonely at night, when our house once filled with friends and family now lays quiet. I don't know what to do please help!!! ~Lonely Man

Lonely


I am very sorry for your loss. However going out and trying to pick up tricks is not the way to fill the void, why don't you invite those same friends who used to keep you and your husband company? Surely they haven't and wouldn't turn their backs on you in your time of need. Barring all of that, I suggest you get a dog to keep you company, much better and safer than someone you pick up from the bar.

Royal,

I had to get advice from someone and you seem to have a been there, done that air about you, with the advice you give in 'Helping Hand' Here goes my story, My best friend has been dating his boyfriend for close to a year now. One of our mutual friends seen the boyfriend making out with another guy, the mutual friend told me but said I couldn't say anything. It doesn't feel right to be keeping this secret and I am about to burst, please advise me. I just don't know what to do. ~Disgusted With Douche

Disgusted,

Please don't say you don't know what to do. You know exactly what you have to do, your best friend deserves to know what his boyfriends extracurricular activities include, mutual friend be damned. Ask yourself this question, what if the shoe was on the other foot, your bestie was keeping a secret like this from you? How would you feel?  Be honest tell him what you know comes from this mutual friend who asked you to keep it quiet. 
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