Saturday, May 15, 2010

Helping Hand: Menage Trois, Alcoholism, Virgin

Royal,

My husband and my best friend are sleeping together. It started out as something we all three did together but lately I've noticed that they are spending a lot of time together without me being around. I left work early one day and went to both houses and they weren't there like they said. I to this day have no idea where they are hooking up but I know they are. What would you do?~Betrayed By Loved Ones

Betrayed,

One of my dearest friends gave me this advice a long time ago. "The fantasy is always better than the reality." I think maybe you are over reacting to their hanging out because in your activities maybe you noticed a heat or chemistry between them. Perhaps its just me but it also seems as though you don't trust either of them. Neither have confessed to anything and you haven't technically caught them doing anything, if you have you didn't spell it out here. It sounds like you have trust issues, because if you can't trust your best friend who can you trust?

Royal,

I've done something horrible. I am or rather was an alcoholic and was suppose to have been sober but my partner and I hit a financial rough patch and we lost our home, the home we had built together for over 20 years.  We lost our house because I lost my job and we couldn't keep up on the mortgage and eat. I have felt so guilty, even though my partner says it's not my fault that I have started drinking again. My partner has noticed the money missing, but I always cover, I know he's about to find out what I'm doing and I think he may leave me. What do I do? ~Lush in Secret

Lush,

Alcoholism runs in my family, and the one thing I will say you need to do is get help. Go to rehab, and once your done there get yourself to AA meetings. Theres also a group for family and friends of alcoholics called Alanon, suggest  to your partner that he goes to a few meetings. If he loves you and it sounds like he does, then you guys can work past this but you have to take the first steps. Good Luck, and check back in with us.


Royal,

I have an embarrassing secret. I am 40 years old, a gay man and a virgin. I have never even touched another human being sexually. It's not for lack of want, but I just never seem to attract the right guy, and when I do find one I want he doesn't feel the same for me. Recently I started hanging out with this great guy, and I am really attracted to him, but I don't know if he feels the same and would hate to ruin the relationship we have just for a few minutes of fun. What advice can you give me? ~The 40 Year Old Virgin

Virgin,

Why do I feel like I'm being punked with this one? Well in any case I suggest that you talk to your guy to find out where he stands. I would also question how you are approaching the other guys, because if you are telling them you want a relationship with them, that may be a bit much. Especially if you don't know them that well.
Post a Comment