Helping Hand: Diet Tips, Cougars, Money Matters

Royal,

I am fat. My boyfriend tells me all the time. I try diets, but after a week or two I am off of them and back to my bad habits. I feel like he's going to leave me if  don't lose the weight but I don't have the self control to actually stay on a diet. I don't want to end up alone, what do I do? ~Chubby Hubby

Chubby,

If your beloved is treating you like that and calling you fat, get rid of him. He isn't worth your time, love is not judgmental, love does not look at your weight. It sounds like you need time to yourself anyways f you are looking to improve yourself for someone who is so rude to you. Think about this, if you really want to change for yourself then you would do it for yourself. Also when you do decide to diet, don't punish yourself if you slip up and have some chili fries or something bad. And set realistic goals for yourself. 

Royal,

I am a woman in my 40's. I only admit that because no one will know who I am. My boyfriend just turned 20. On his birthday he asked me to marry him and how could I turn him down, after all it was his big day? The thing is I don't want to marry him, there are so many issues between us as it is, like the fact that he wants kids and  already have kids that are older than him. How do I break up with him without being seen as a bitch? ~Cougar in Colorado

Cougar,


Let me put this to you the best way I can. You are going to be seen as a bitch no matter which way you go. First and foremost if you were already having problems with this guy, then you should have said no, plain and simple. And what does a 40 something have in common with someone who was in their teens. Break up with him and get yourself into a therapists office. Age shouldn't matter but obviously in this case it was a big deal for you. Next time go with a guy more your age, or at least have the important conversations up front.

Royal,

I am stuck at a job I hate. My partner and I have enough money saved that if I wanted I could stop working at my job and do what I really want to do; Be a singer. When I brought this up, my partner scoffed that I should just keep working and be thankful for the many blessings we have. I love him to death but shouldn't I follow my dream? ~Stuck In A Job

Stuck,

Normally I say follow your dreams but this time no. n the economic climate we are facing it is best to stay in the job you have, if you are fired or lose your job for something beyond your control then I say follow your dream. Your partner is probably wanting to stay financially stable rather than risking everything. He may have also been sparing your feelings f you suck!